I like to think of myself as generally being one of those calm mothers that smiles in the face of all diversities including temper
Let it all out
tantrums. I like to think that even if my child decides on tantruming in our local food store I am still completely in control. Well, today has blown that perception into smithereens and well and truly out towards the milky way somewhere.
So what do we do when our child has the tantrum from hell ?
I genuinely think I understand my son, so why did he burst into an outrage that clearly could not be pacified with anything. Sometimes they just need to get it of their chest I tell myself and if its in Sainsbury’s then I will just pick the screaming kicking whaling banshee up and walk out until we have calmed down I ignore the stares from people who clearly do not have children, you know the ones that look at you as though I am the only mother in the world who has to deal with the odd child outburst.
I have just returned from a beautiful walk of 3 miles with a very good friend and returned a complete shambles. My 18month old decided to have the biggest temper tantrum in the world in the middle of our walk. I actually have no idea why except I didn’t appear to be giving him what he wanted. He pointed to the bag so I offered him water, food and toys which in-fact just made him scream louder.We looked at the cows and looked for horses whilst passing lots of friendly dog walkers. One person actually stated she could hear us from the top of the field. I was mortified. He wasn’t in pain, too hot or too cold, I knew he was safe, warm, fed, watered and well. There appears to be a point where you can do know more and I had reached it. Unfortunately it was in the middle of a beautiful walk toward our local lake where many people go for their peace, solace and ultimate tranquility .So I truly am very sorry to those of you whose gentle walk we interrupted. I am a good mother and usually have these situations completely under control. I just ask that next time you don’t look at me with a frown as if to suggest that I cannot hear my son, or that I am abusing him, I also ask you if your children ever have any expression of anger and I wonder how you dealt with it? I would also like to say a huge thank you to those walkers who gave me that gentle nod and smile of encouragement as if to say. “It will pass, You are fine.”
Thank you.
Ahh…I remember that walk.
In retrospect I think that the answer should of been for us to lay down on the floor and join in with the tantrum!
That way the ‘perfect parents’ (ha!) dishing out the ‘control your child woman’ looks could of gone smugly about their day…’BLAMING THE PARENTS’
I’m well up for an uncontrolable outburst anytime you are
YES YES YES!!!!! why didn’t I think of that!
Uncontrollable outburts a go go, do you think the passers by would have walked on bye or hell, perhaps they might have joined in.
WOW, we could actually hold uncontrollable outburst sessions, now thats therapy for you. I can definately teach different ways or shouting, screaming, yelling, crying, yodeling, I even have my own syndrome which is not too dis similar to Terrets except I actually just say the words under my breath. I can teach that too if anyone should need its called ’swearunderyourbreathsonoonecanhearyou’ syndrome.
So if anyone fancies a therapy session which generally involves irrepressible and unruly and rebellious behaviour in a ’safe space’ let me know.
My daughter never showed any signs of having tantrums throughout the so called “terrible twos” and I thought I’d got lucky having previously exeperienced them with my son.
Boy is she making up for it now at the age of 5!!!
She can throw herself on the floor, kicking her legs at the drop of a hat and at the age of 5 the looks you get when you are out I can’t begin to tell you.
Any ideas how to deal with these outbursts best please?????
Bit like that advert where the mum has a tantrum in the supermarket and completely confuses her toddler? Glad it’s not just me who wants to join in with tantrums.
I’m no expert, but I think the first and hardest hurdle is learning to ignore the people around you tutting and dishing out the looks. They should realise that they serve no other purpose than to add extra pressure and stress to an already difficult situation.
HERE! HERE! It’s a hard task to learn initially. Of course the children play on it and know they get larger boundaries when they are out which only makes it harder next time. Easier said than done especially when we are tired having had a long day. Those angels of ours just push the button a little harder to make the day even longer.
Keep smiling ladies
Wonderful sunny day here, we spent ages in the park. Must have been the fresh air, exercise and being close to tea time. I thought I had handled tantrums but this was something new! Do tantrums get bigger as they get older? My three year old, in the middle of the high street, raging, hitting and rolling on the floor whilst demanding a magazine from the newsagents. She then ran off, leaving me, little bro and the pushchair. Felt like a matador trying to tame a raging bull. Part of me laughing at the sheer surrealness of trying to stop a three year old hell bent on running off down the high street to snatch a magazine. Other part at a genuine loss to know how to make it all stop. Finally coerced her onto a bench and fed her a banana. All was well with the world once more. Blimey!
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