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The Gallery 24 hours

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Originally Posted on A Residence
The theme at Sticky Fingers is 24 hours.  I am grateful for The Gallery, because over the last few months it has given me the chance to think about the events leading up to yesterday.  Often in a round about way, but in a significant way too.
Yesterday was my mum’s funeral.  The longest and saddest but also the most special and inspiring 24 hours.  We chose a humanist ceremony, and it was outstanding.  It was such a celebration of my mum’s life, and marked perfectly the ways that she will live on in the lives she has influenced.  I soaked up every last drop of stories from her friends and family.  In 24 hours I suddenly felt I had this amazing bird’s eye view of her life, lots of through lines came together and I had a wonderful sense of her, as much more than my mum.
This is the picture, taken by my Dad, we chose for the Order of Service.  The image that we contemplated during the few minutes silence after her eulogy.   Everyone felt it was incredibly powerful, the perfect image. Some people prayed, others reflected.   Looking at it was very sad, I think there a real a mixture of emotions there, it was taken after her first operation to remove a brain tumour, when she was doing remarkably well – and rocking her new short hairdo – but she knew that the cancer would probably return.  We had got together as a family, with my brother’s girlfriend’s family and it was a magical weekend.  My mum’s smile, positivity, supportiveness and all round loveliness are all in this image, and I found that hugely comforting.
I’m very tired, so this post by no means does the day justice, but the 24 hours themselves were an amazing tribute to my mum.
In terms of my own pictures, I took this to capture the sea of cards that arrived before the funeral and I took one of my dad, my brother and his girlfriend, and my brother took one of me and Mr A.  We were waiting nervously for the car to pick us up, suddenly we realised how smart we looked and someone remarked that if mum had been here she would have been busy taking photos of everyone.  So we took them in her honour, but I am not sure it’s right to post them.
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    12 thoughts on “The Gallery – 24 hours”

    The Alexander Residence
    February 10, 2011 at 11:39 pm
    Thank you all so much for the lovely words. It’s been so so helpful to talk about it here. Sorry for making Linz cry.
    Lexie- I’m so sorry, keep in touch and if you ever want to talk I am here. I am off to find you on Twitter x
    Zookeeper, it’s all in the little things sometimes isn’t it? You write so beautifully about your Dad. And hearing your accounts makes me realise loss isn’t such a lonely thing after all. Keep in touch x
    Bowled over ny this beautiful blogging community 🙂
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    Emma
    February 11, 2011 at 7:27 am
    A beautiful post, had me in tears too. So sorry for your loss. Emma
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    Trish
    February 11, 2011 at 8:05 am
    The bit that is making me anxious about my dad’s funeral next week is when the cars come to collect us and dad’s coffin comes home for the last time. I have this constant knot in my stomach at the moment and am so so tired.
    It’s reassuring to know you found such comfort from your mum’s funeral.
    That’s a beautiful picture of your mum. We have picked a photo of Dad when he was at work, sitting at his desk: he looks a bit serious but very handsome and my mum loves the way it shows his long fingers – so that was it!!
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    Kate
    February 11, 2011 at 10:42 am
    Beautiful.
    Trish – it’s funny you say that. It was only when we were all sitting staring at each other in the limo at my Dad’s funeral that the gravity of it all hit home. However it is all strangely comforting. Good luck. x
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    The Alexander Residence
    February 11, 2011 at 7:49 pm
    I agree with Kate it was strangely comforting. We had all been worrying we would be late, wondering what order to get in the car in, suggesting short cuts to avoid the roadworks. Then the funeral director knelt beside us at the car door and said ‘we’ll just take a minute’, and it hit me. And I looked at the coffin. But that pause and the slow drive through the town we grew up in gave me chance to prepare. We went straight into the crem and straight into the service which I was grateful for. No time once we got there to think. But i felt calm.
    Thinking of you x
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    rosiescribble
    February 12, 2011 at 9:47 am
    I have a huge lump in my throat. So sorry for your loss. Beautifully written.
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    Lucy Quick
    February 12, 2011 at 7:28 pm
    So sorry for your loss lovely – your Mum sounds like an amazing woman.
    Hope you’re doing ok xxx
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    Michelle Twin Mum
    February 12, 2011 at 10:48 pm
    So glad you had a good and memorable service. Thinking of you. Mich x
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    The Alexander Residence
    February 13, 2011 at 9:39 am
    Thank you xxx
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    WitWitWoo
    April 11, 2011 at 11:01 pm
    What a beautiful post. She sounds like a very much loved woman. We laughed and smiled a lot on the day of my Mum’s funeral, after the service, but it felt natural. She would have loved to have seen us all together, swapping memories of her … surreal, but wonderful for that brief period of time. Your mum was beautiful – I’m sure you’ve inherited a whole heap of what made her beautiful x
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    The Alexander Residence
    April 11, 2011 at 11:17 pm
    Thank you. So glad we met. Just read about your mum too, she sounds like a wonderful person too x
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    Danni from It started with a Squish (
    August 1, 2013 at 9:49 am
    You look so much like your mum xx Such a wonderful post xx
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