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My Wedding Rings

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After the excitement of getting engaged, after the buzz of a wedding, once babies are safely delivered, if that’s the path you follow, then there are anniversaries to look forward to, of course. But I know as the years go by we have become less fixated on making a fuss of these and just happy to reflect on how far we have come. Small children have that effect on you.

I received a lookbook from Vashi.com’s new range of zodiac inspired engagement rings and quickly got distracted by their shiny things. I stumbled upon on a perfect eternity ring, something we have been pondering and I will show you it, but first some back story on my wedding rings.

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Once upon a time, I lived in Hove, in a beautiful seafront flat. I met my now husband, the boyfriend when I was 15 or so, but it wasn’t until I left university and we bumped into each other once more, that we became an item.

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Our first home together was this flat, after a year spent visiting him in London, another year of me training to teach on the opposite side of London, we had finally managed to ‘be together’ with jobs in Sussex and our dream flat in Hove. (Now you see why I have never settled anywhere I have lived since – it was a magical place to live)

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We worked hard at our respective careers at the time, partied hard and travelled a bit too. Life was good. I love the way he proposed, curled up on the sofa watching Shrek. It was real, it was heartfelt, it was life as we loved it, and it was our home. This picture isn’t our flat by the way, it is pub, they used to feel a lot like home too though, in those days.

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My engagement ring was bought together in Brighton, it was the first one I saw, although I looked at many more. It’s circular and square shapes reminded me so much of my Gran’s engagement and wedding rings, which as a child reminded me of sweeties. I liked that we chose it together.

My wedding ring has two square sapphires.
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Years later, just after my second child was born, for Christmas he bought me a ring with two stones in, one for each child. I treasure it, but it never quite sat along with the other rings. Perhaps we were just a little too tired and busy to be buying important pieces of jewellery? I hate this photo, but it is a rare all of us together with baby G photo.

Next year we will have been married 10 years, and together for 17. I think that calls for a celebration. We went away to Ox Pasture Hotel recently and decided an eternity ring would be a wonderful way to symbolise our achievements. We’re still working on what Mr A would have, something as significant, although for men it is more complicated. I’m not just thinking of the bling here, there is a big part of me, probably the bit that studied drama, that believes rituals and symbols are really important.

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I stumbled upon an eternity ring at Vashi which I think complements the ones I have. Vashi Dominguez, supplies diamonds to the stars, and is also seen as an industry expert – you should see his press cuttings, Cheryl Fernandez-Versini Wows in £1 million Vashi Diamond (The Daily Mail), but also at the other end of the spectrum How to save money on an engagement ring (The Guardian).

This Rubover Set diamond ring in 18k white gold is £559 and features 7 princess diamonds, with the 3 diamonds on my wedding ring that makes 10, one for each year.

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These two came a close second Graduated Blue and Diamond Ring and third a Bezel Set Diamond in Platinum…but I think that was the little girl in me lusting after jewels that look like sweeties again, the ring above is a much better match.

There is always the option of something bespoke….or perhaps a surprise. Neither of us is that keen on surprises though.

I’ve always been a bit confused about eternity rings, but Vashi have a lots of guidance about all important ring buying occasions on their site.

Eternity rings are used to mark significant anniversaries, most commonly at 5, 10, 20 years. But they are also bought as presents when babies arrive, or when a family is complete.

They are often a solid ring of diamonds to mark, eternal love, but half covered bands are as common, for comfort and economy.

Some people also decide to replace a wedding ring because their tastes have changed, because they can afford to upgrade, or because they want to preserve their wedding ring and pass it on as a family heirloom.

Eternity rings are usually worn alongside wedding jewellery, but don’t have to be, again there are no rules. The usual order is wedding, engagement and then eternity ring closest to the knuckle.

Vashi are conflict free and also offer a bespoke service, so you can design your own ring.

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15 Comments

  • Reply Fritha Strickland

    That picture of you giggling is the cutest! How amazing that you’ve been together since uni, that’s wonderful. I might bug Tom for one of these on our 5 year anniversary 😉 x

    04/12/2014 at 9:42 pm
  • Reply Kathryn (@KatGotTheCream)

    How lovely to have a stone to represent each of the years – I’m hanging out for an eternity ring for our 10th anniversary too! x

    04/12/2014 at 10:39 pm
  • Reply Kerry bratt

    10 years!!!!!
    Wow where has that time gone! X

    04/12/2014 at 11:04 pm
  • Reply Donna @ Little Lilypad Co

    Gorgeous post! Fab pictures and a great choice of ring.
    I love the idea of the eternity ring, although I think diamonds are a perfect gift for any occasion! (hopes husband realises this!!)

    05/12/2014 at 10:31 am
  • Reply Becky

    Just lovely you look no different now P than you fdid then!

    05/12/2014 at 10:34 am
  • Reply Sonya Cisco

    That is a GORGEOUS ring! We aren’t married, nor are we planning to be, but I do still like a ring – I have a lovely one with Syds birthstone that my fella bought me after he was born!

    05/12/2014 at 10:59 am
  • Reply Anya from Older Single Mum and The Healer

    Lovely stones and I so wish you were still down in Hove! Those rings are georgeous and the pics awesome 🙂

    05/12/2014 at 12:05 pm
  • Reply maggy, red ted art

    Wow! Happy 10yrs!!!!

    05/12/2014 at 3:55 pm
  • Reply Joanne Brady

    Well after 21 years together, 7 years married, and four children I believe I am due a MA-HOO-SIVE ring very soon. Will have to see what Santa brings. 🙂

    05/12/2014 at 6:29 pm
  • Reply Katy Hill

    Happy 10 years lady! We celebrated our 10 years in July of this year and it does just get better. An eternity ring is so the way to go! 😉 x

    05/12/2014 at 10:00 pm
  • Reply Mammasaurus

    I can’t tell you how much I loved looking at these photos!

    (ok ok – a LOT!)

    05/12/2014 at 11:30 pm
  • Reply Adele @ Circus Queen

    You lived in Hove! I lived in Brighton! It’s where I met my husband and we lived there for the first year of our marriage so I was there for five years in total. Love your pictures and love that he proposed while watching Shrek. I would love an eternity ring. We’ve only been married for five years, though, so maybe in another five?

    06/12/2014 at 12:43 am
  • Reply Emma

    Awww Penny, you guys look so young, and what a lovely story. Happy Anniversary!!!

    09/12/2014 at 7:25 am
  • Reply Amanda

    Oh I love this idea and I may just have to look into it further, as we will have been married 5 years next year!! My engagement ring is one from the family and our wedding rings were bought by my mother-in-law (we got married on a very tight budget!!) We didn’t even see the wedding rings until the day before the wedding!! I lost my wedding r ring when pregnant as I began reacting to the metal and took both rings off and it just went missing. I found the engagement ring but cannot wear it as I still react to the metal (platinum). We’ve been talking about buying each other new rings for an anniversary as Tim finds his ring too heavy for comfort too, but I had no.idea about eternity rings, what a fantastic idea. I’m.not really a ring kind of person, the only ring I have ever really worn is my engagement one, but like you I do feel ritual and symbolism is important. Too often people have mentioned my lack of a ring and so it would be nice to have one rather than having to explain I cannot wear mine!

    I loved reading your story and can’t wait to see what ring you choose 🙂

    09/12/2014 at 8:01 am
  • Reply Amanda

    I remember some of these photographs, do you have them framed at home? Love the new look Penny, 🙂

    22/12/2014 at 6:44 pm
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