Only 30% of us say I love you everyday.
I don’t need a reason to miss my Mum. But normally there is a trigger, a niggle about something I wish I could tell her, share with her, ask her. Today I was niggling, so I wrote this down…
I guess I just want to really know what it was like to be my Mum. To be able to ask your advice as a parent. To know the advice is tailored to me, and your knowledge of me alone. There are so few people who know you like you know your own child. As I face new things with my children I try to imagine how you felt, facing them myself makes me wish I could thank you for facing them for me, with me. The relationship I have with you now is so different to having a mum who is still here. I have to fill in all the blanks by asking others, guess work and reasoning.
Thanks for all you did, the unravelling I do I know is testament to how well you did it. I love you.
Later I watched this video from French Fashion brand Verdaubet, about their language of love campaign. I fully admit I had a totally different post in my head for this, but it suddenly tied in with all the emotions I felt today. This is from the heart. The video made me want to tell a few people how much I love them.
I think I do say I love you every day, to the dog, to my family as each goes to bed, but I don’t always use it at the times when the recipients really need it. What about you?
Would we all feel happier if we tried on a little more French style and spontaneously told people we loved them?
Earlier today my daughter was screaming up the stairs. ‘Not now!’ I shouted, ‘This is an emergency’. My email had been hacked.
‘I have an emergency,’ she said, and proceeded to tell me my son had fed the dog sweets.
‘That’s not an emergency,’ I bellowed down the stairs.
She started to cry.
So I stopped, held her, and said ‘I love you’. Told her what I was doing and why. And she let me get on with it, even offered to get the naughty hackers for me.
We all just need to know we are loved. Three little words.
I’m off to phone my wonderful Dad. Who have you told you love this week? Today? Or do you have other ways to make people feel loved.