After the excitement of getting engaged, after the buzz of a wedding, once babies are safely delivered, if that’s the path you follow, then there are anniversaries to look forward to, of course. But I know as the years go by we have become less fixated on making a fuss of these and just happy to reflect on how far we have come. Small children have that effect on you.
I received a lookbook from Vashi.com’s new range of zodiac inspired engagement rings and quickly got distracted by their shiny things. I stumbled upon on a perfect eternity ring, something we have been pondering and I will show you it, but first some back story on my wedding rings.
Once upon a time, I lived in Hove, in a beautiful seafront flat. I met my now husband, the boyfriend when I was 15 or so, but it wasn’t until I left university and we bumped into each other once more, that we became an item.
Our first home together was this flat, after a year spent visiting him in London, another year of me training to teach on the opposite side of London, we had finally managed to ‘be together’ with jobs in Sussex and our dream flat in Hove. (Now you see why I have never settled anywhere I have lived since – it was a magical place to live)
We worked hard at our respective careers at the time, partied hard and travelled a bit too. Life was good. I love the way he proposed, curled up on the sofa watching Shrek. It was real, it was heartfelt, it was life as we loved it, and it was our home. This picture isn’t our flat by the way, it is pub, they used to feel a lot like home too though, in those days.
My engagement ring was bought together in Brighton, it was the first one I saw, although I looked at many more. It’s circular and square shapes reminded me so much of my Gran’s engagement and wedding rings, which as a child reminded me of sweeties. I liked that we chose it together.
Years later, just after my second child was born, for Christmas he bought me a ring with two stones in, one for each child. I treasure it, but it never quite sat along with the other rings. Perhaps we were just a little too tired and busy to be buying important pieces of jewellery? I hate this photo, but it is a rare all of us together with baby G photo.
Next year we will have been married 10 years, and together for 17. I think that calls for a celebration. We went away to Ox Pasture Hotel recently and decided an eternity ring would be a wonderful way to symbolise our achievements. We’re still working on what Mr A would have, something as significant, although for men it is more complicated. I’m not just thinking of the bling here, there is a big part of me, probably the bit that studied drama, that believes rituals and symbols are really important.
I stumbled upon an eternity ring at Vashi which I think complements the ones I have. Vashi Dominguez, supplies diamonds to the stars, and is also seen as an industry expert – you should see his press cuttings, Cheryl Fernandez-Versini Wows in £1 million Vashi Diamond (The Daily Mail), but also at the other end of the spectrum How to save money on an engagement ring (The Guardian).
This Rubover Set diamond ring in 18k white gold is £559 and features 7 princess diamonds, with the 3 diamonds on my wedding ring that makes 10, one for each year.
These two came a close second Graduated Blue and Diamond Ring and third a Bezel Set Diamond in Platinum…but I think that was the little girl in me lusting after jewels that look like sweeties again, the ring above is a much better match.
There is always the option of something bespoke….or perhaps a surprise. Neither of us is that keen on surprises though.
I’ve always been a bit confused about eternity rings, but Vashi have a lots of guidance about all important ring buying occasions on their site.
Eternity rings are used to mark significant anniversaries, most commonly at 5, 10, 20 years. But they are also bought as presents when babies arrive, or when a family is complete.
They are often a solid ring of diamonds to mark, eternal love, but half covered bands are as common, for comfort and economy.
Some people also decide to replace a wedding ring because their tastes have changed, because they can afford to upgrade, or because they want to preserve their wedding ring and pass it on as a family heirloom.
Eternity rings are usually worn alongside wedding jewellery, but don’t have to be, again there are no rules. The usual order is wedding, engagement and then eternity ring closest to the knuckle.
Vashi are conflict free and also offer a bespoke service, so you can design your own ring.